Opt-out Options

Opt-out Options

Tom and Summer have been on a date for a couple hours and as they exit the record shop, Summer apprehensively says, “Now, I think I’m going to call it a day.”

But Tom persists, “Yeah? You want to maybe get some dinner or something?”

Summer protests, obviously wanting to get away from Tom, but he ignorantly doesn’t notice and continues pressuring her into prolonging the date.

“I’ve got a great idea! Let’s get breakfast! Pancakes?”

Summer finally gives up and goes with Tom to get pancakes, where she ultimately breaks up with him.

Guys, don’t be like Tom from “500 Days of Summer.” If your date wants to go home, take her home. She’ll probably go along with your marathon date if you twist her arm long enough, but that won’t lead either of you to have a good time.

Some girls don’t wear their emotions on their sleeves like Summer, so it’s a good idea for you to bring up the option to continue the date or go home early. But you shouldn’t guilt them by saying, “I spent a long time planning this super fun thing to do afterward, do you want do that? Or would you rather go home?”

“You have to make sure it’s a real option,” said Sarah Griffes, a BYU sophomore. “You have to say something like, ‘so we could go do this thing, but if you don’t want to, that’s totally fine.’”

Don’t just recognize the warning signs as they come up, give your date the option to go home before she grows bored or tired.

— Donovan Baltich

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