We’ve all been there. We see someone, whether in the library, in class or just on the route to school, and we do a double take. This person is intriguing, beautiful and somehow we end up seeing them more often than not. They become someone so close to being a reality in our lives, but they’re so far out of reach that they don’t even know our names. This is our unicorn.
A unicorn is someone beautiful, practically magical, but not yet ‘real’ in our lives. The task to make a unicorn realize not only our existence but also our potential can be daunting. Persistence, a good attitude, and unwavering dedication can turn a unicorn into a reality – a friend and potentially even more.
The first step is the hardest and the most important: make your presence known. Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, blonde or brunette, your unicorn has to know who you are. This can be done by small and simple or even more extreme acts.
“I saw a boy in the library and automatically knew I wanted to get to know him,” said Madeline Ballard a sophomore majoring in finance. “I walked past him and saw he and I were taking the same accounting class so I looked on Learning Suite and found every boy in the class and then searched on the BYU directory until I found him. I then looked at the assigned seating and sat by him in the next class. We became best friends and still are three years later.”
Not all moves have to be as dramatic as Ballard’s, but take action to get acquainted. Get the courage to sit by them when they’re sitting alone or asking them a question casually, they have to be familiar with who you are.
Step two is to fake it until you make it. After the initial introduction, make your unicorn not only remember who you are but know who you are. Consistency is key. Be confident by regularly saying hi and starting a conversation, even if it’s short.
“Always acknowledge them, even if you feel nervous or awkward,” said Max Drollinger, a junior majoring in psychology. “Be confident and make them realize how awesome you are by that confidence in starting conversation.”
The final step is to be bold but chill. By this point you and your unicorn should be familiar somewhat. Without being overbearing, casually invite your unicorn to something fun with a group of people. It should be an activity they want to come to, and invite your unicorn to bring their friends.
“I wanted to break the ‘only friends on campus’ barrier so I organized a bonfire night with friends and invited him to come,” said Alexis Nilson, a senior studying illustration.
“I figured if he got to know me more than just at school maybe he’d ask me out, and he did.”
No matter how beautiful, talented, smart or funny unicorns may be, they’re still just people who want to be treated well, have fun and be happy. Once you realize you may have put your unicorn on a pedestal the easier it is to recognize that they’re just as human as you and your quest to know them better can more easily become a reality.